For many brides, the reply cards that you tuck into your wedding invitations are a necessary evil. The cost of ordering those extra cards, then adding a stamp to each, is something you wish you could do without, but it seems like such a traditional and required part of your wedding stationery. And besides, your guests have to be able to let you know if they are coming to your wedding or not!
Or maybe you really like the extra elegance that a fancy looking reply card adds – and besides, it is kind of exciting when you start getting a few back in the mail every day!
Well, regardless of which side of the RSVP issue you are on, there are many options in today’s wedding world, and one of them is sure to suit you and your guests perfectly. yes, even if you would rather do without reply cards completely.
1. No RSVP cards at all
There are, of course, numerous benefits to not including reply cards with your wedding invitations. It cuts down on costs, obviously, since your invitations will weigh less and you will not have to pay for the additional postage stamps. Also, it means a lot less paper waste for those of you looking for a “green” option. If you’re having an international wedding with guests from more than one country, it is definitely the less complicated option as opposed to figuring out and coordinating postage requirements from foreign countries.
However, you have to consider your guest list also. If you have a lot of older guests, and some who are not very computer literate, you may have a hard time getting responses without something tangible for them to mail back to you. Or, if your guests include family members who prefer to do things the traditional, old-fashioned way, your omitting the RSVP cards completely may feel like a breach of etiquette. It’s up to you to decide how much these considerations will play into your own wedding.
If not sending out reply cards is the right choice for you, you can simply sign up with a wedding website, such as the knot or WeddingWire, where you can set things up to allow your guests to respond online. Then once you have the website address, simply add this to the bottom corner of your invitation. You can also simply provide an email address instead, but then you take the risk of your guests emailing you without including all the relevant information. Finally, add a phone number too so that guests can respond that way if they prefer.
2. A Postcard Compromise
If the thought of not sending RSVP cards sounds good to you, but you know there are too many guests who that would not work for, there is a compromise. You can simply include an RSVP postcard with your invitation.
RSVP postcards offer a lot of benefits. For one thing, they are lighter than regular RSVP cards and they also require less postage. In addition, if you look at the example above, you are actually first giving the guests the option of replying online or by phone. So chances are a large number of your guests will do just that. And for those guests who insist that “by mail” is the only way to respond, the postcard is ready for them!
It is up to you if you decide to stamp these postcards or not. Some brides feel that if you leave off the stamp, it will encourage your guests to use the other methods of replying to you. It would also save a lot of wasted postage from the guests that don’t use the cards. But again, this decision is up to you – you may feel it is worth the cost of the postage to make it easier for the guests who will be returning the postcard.
3. Combination invitation and RSVP card
One of the most original options I’ve seen out there is a combination wedding invitation and RSVP card all in one! This is a longer invitation, where a portion of the card is actually a reply card that the guests can cut off and mail back.
For one thing, this invitation eliminates the cost of extra paper weight since you don’t have a separate RSVP card. Since the invitation is customizable, you can easily change the wording to include your wedding website or email address for responses at the bottom of the RSVP section. So there will still most likely be many guests who opt for the convenience of responding online. Finally, this invitation is just really cute and something most of your guests probably haven’t seen before, so they’ll like it too.
4. The Traditional RSVP
So, if after considering all the above you’ve decided that the traditional response card is the choice for you, there are still many options. You can choose to leave the cards as simple or as detailed as you like. Many of the RSVP cards you see will simply have spaces for the guests’ names and number of people attending. However, you can also choose to include a spot for, for instance, your guest’s choice of meals:
If you choose a design that you love, it can actually be a beautiful addition to your whole invitation wedding suite, and can make quite an impression.
So don’t feel locked into one strict way of doing wedding response cards. As you can see, you have many RSVP choices, and one of them is sure to make the most sense for you.
Here are some more RSVP cards and templates on Zazzle to get you started. But you can try more specific searches, such as “RSVP postcard”, to locate the exact one that is perfect for you and your wedding.